Tuesday, July 22, 2008

#2 Biggest Mistake Couples Make In Relationships

In dating, singles are often trying to "size" each other up. We'll look for bad habits with money, sex, rudeness, or any other little thing to try to eliminate a person as a partner. Why? Because we want to make sure we select the best partner we can! It just makes sense.

But here is where couples run into problems: they start to form a "story" in their head about their partner. Or, worse yet, you've been dating -- perhaps even married for a while -- and you hear a story about your partner. The story isn't good. Do you believe it? If you do, you might be headed towards the cliff of relationship failure.

What is the second mistake couples make that can cause such damage in relationships?

The #2 Biggest Relationship Mistake Couples Make:

Believing a STORY that may not be true.

If only we could just know the truth, without games, our relationship life would be so much easier, wouldn't it? Well, at least now we can learn a way to help us avoid making this crazy relationship mistake that sparks many conflicts in relationships. Story-telling (and believing) can cause imagined affairs and worse.

One of my own ex-girlfriends could have used the Magic Relationship system to help her stop believing strange stories.

How about you? Are you guilty of telling, repeating, or believing in a story that downgrades your partner? Perhaps she looked at you weird. So, now you think she's a b*tch. Or, perhaps he allowed you to pay a bill. That means he is tight with money, right? Well, maybe not! There could be more going on under the surface, and you haven't validated your story.

Here's my question for you:

Do you make observations, then run to conclusions (create a story), then believe in that story rather than deeper meaning?

If you make an observation, you might want to clarify what is going on. It is only fair to your partner.

When people make observations, create stories, then act from the believe created from the story, they're running the risk of creating relationship dynamics that may lead contrary to your love staying together and thriving. In other words, it is poor communication.

My ex-girlfriend thought she was psychic. She'd have a dream that I slept with someone else, then rush over to my house to catch the evidence and bust me. The funny thing was that I never did that! I didn't sleep with anyone else when we were in our committed relationship. So, how was that fair to me? Right, it wasn't fair at all!

When you act from erroneous beliefs you act in a way that is not mature, but rather immature.

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Enjoy! Best of success to you in building true love!

Comment below to discuss your own challenges in creating stories and believing in erroneous stories.

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